The child should see the nursery before the day he/she starts adaptation.
The child should make purchases to the kindergarten with his parents.
If so far the child has not stayed without parents, he/she should be left with grandparents or friends for a few hours, otherwise the kindergarten will be associated with the first time of being alone.
The child’s clothes must be comfortable and must not cause any problems.
Be happy for your child going to kindergarten the next day.
Don’t promise your child a reward for going to kindergarten.
Stay happy together with your three-year-old as he/she goes to kindergarten.
Don’t feed your child before breakfast, the eaten meal will be a reason for joy. Decisions about food should not be made for a child.
Let your three-year-old take your favourite hugger, mascot, or toy from home.
Help your child to get undressed, pay attention to his clothes and where you leave them.
Encourage independence so that your child doesn’t feel helpless.
Keep an eye on the time of bringing your child to kindergarten (breakfast), as he will be saddened to sit alone at the table.
Goodbye in the cloakroom should be short: smile, kiss, hug and bye-bye.
Don’t take your children home when they cry when you bring them, once you give in, it’ll get harder. Your little one in tears will force you to come home again.
If the break-up with your mum is very painful, a three-year-old should come to kindergarten with his dad for the first days.
Welcome your child with a smile, you can give him a small gift by saying a positive-sounding sentence: Now we can go home.
Don’t require your child to love all teachers right away.
Keep an eye on what you say about your child’s presence in the kindergarten.
Ask any questions to the teacher at the end of the child’s day.
Do not cause additional stress by forcing the child to talk about the kindergarten immediately after coming home. He or she will start talking about the kindergarten at the right time.
Good adaptation
How to prepare a child for the adventure with nursery and kindergarten?
The parents’ positive attitude of to the nursery and kindergarten is important. Firstly, the child hears the parents’ conversations and if they speak negatively about the facility or verbalize their fears, the child may be reluctant to go to a nursery or kindergarten, no matter who the parents turn to, no matter who hears this information; secondly, the child senses the parents’ emotional states, there is no hiding the sadness or anxiety from them, if the parent experiences the morning parting, the child will also experience it.
The child cannot be the parent’s confidant. Parents should not burden the children with their problems e.g. during marital conflicts or with problems at work.
A nursery or kindergarten is worth presenting as a great adventure, not a sad place. The comments “You have to go to the kindergarten, because I have to go to work and make money” will not help the child to adapt.
The child should get some sleep. There should be time for the child to go to bed early enough and get up early in the morning; the child should not sleep in a room where there is a TV and a computer, should not watch cartoons before bedtime, and there should be peace in the house when the child sleeps.
The morning routine is important — preparations for a nursery or kindergarten should take place in a calm atmosphere. Hurry and nerves have a negative influence on the adaptation process (a parent can get up early, prepare to go out, prepare clothes and breakfast for the child and only then wake up the child, thanks to which he or she can devote time and help in these activities without hurry; if the child comes to the facility straight for breakfast, it is worth giving up the morning meal at home and wake up the child at such a time that there is enough time to wash, dress and reach the facility.
The parent shouldn’t make the separation even harder than it actually is. He should follow the rules introduced by the nursery and kindergarten; it is worth developing a farewell ritual in the cloakroom.
It is very important to spend time with your child after the nursery or kindergarten. The parent should organise himself/herself in such a way that after picking up the child from the facility he/she has time for common activities. When a mother prepares dinner and does the washing up, and the child is sitting nearby, this is not enough, face-to-face contact and full involvement of the parent in playing with the child is needed.
The activities with parents can be connected with the topic and everything what happened in the nursery or kindergarten. A parent may offer the child a game that the child has played in the facility.
It’s worth asking about what happened in the nursery or kindergarten. You absolutely must not ask: “Was everything all right?”, “Did nothing bad happen?”. You can ask what the child was playing today or what the topic of the lesson was. However, let’s remember that the child has the right not to remember certain events, let’s not bother him/her with questions about what was for lunch, etc. It is better to play in the kindergarten — then the parent will see what vision of a nursery or kindergarten the child has.
Parents must not be angry with their children for difficulties communicated by the teacher. They should be forgiving, they should strengthen the sense of security (e.g. you’ve been peeing, it’s hard, next time you try to use the toilet, but don’t worry, you’ll always have spare clothes).
Parents should help their children to manage their difficulties and solve problems. For example, remind them that the child can ask the tutor at any time, that he or she has spare clothes, etc.
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