Do you set boundaries for your child?

Why are children “crossing the boundaries”? This could be for several reasons: they are unaware of their parents ‘boundaries, or they “test” their parents’ boundaries to know how far they can go. If the parent is unstable within their own limits, the child will also test their own “endurance”. They carry out an activity that is important to them and is unable to control themselves, as most adults can, they are overwhelmed with an excess of stimuli, tired, hurt, hungry, jealous, angry, and so on … They are unable to consider other people since their needs are not met. They do not know what we mean: adults use mental shortcuts, use abstract language that children at some stages of development the child does not understand. As a result, being confused, they seek contact in various ways. The easiest way for children to respect other people’s boundaries is to respect their own boundaries. In this way, we model how the child behaves to ourselves and to other people. Children’s boundaries are so often violated that contact with someone who treats them respectfully can be positively unusual for a child. Stable and at the same time flexible boundaries of parents are an element of a child’s sense of security and the basis for understanding the world and other people. Personal boundaries, established in an atmosphere of mutual respect and understanding, will be the framework for the integrity of each individual within the family.