Children require their parents’ trust

Keeping children safe from dangers often takes the form of controlling them. This grows with the child. In the beginning, we nervously observe every movement our child takes at home, trying to prevent any injuries from occurring. Later, we begin to fear the dangers outside of the home such as on public transport and on the road, we result in offering our children lifts and driving them everywhere. As children become teenagers and begin to be more independent in what they do, our parenting techniques can even become a little paranoid requiring text message reports of where they are and we tend to create the worst-case scenarios in our head.

This all comes down to love. When we consider our child’s development there’s a saying that says: “Give a man a fish, and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, and you feed him for a lifetime.” Don’t wait for an accident to occur, accompany your child with peace, of course, whilst keeping the safety framework. When a child puts a lot of effort into something, they will make many attempts, until they finally achieve little successes, they will immediately look to their parents and then this allows time for pride and praise. The child learns to believe in their abilities and exceed their limitations, but most of them learn that their parent allows them to do so and accompanies them in their development. The parent’s constant shielding and overprotective care, although resulting from love, limits the development of self-confidence and self-esteem. Of course – it is necessary to react to the threat. However, in situations where there is no real threat, but there is only a potential risk that the parent is actively looking for to protect the child – the child, more than physical protection, needs the parent’s trust.