You shouldn’t compare. Comparing siblings is a common reaction from parents when being placed in difficult situations, an example of this would be “See how politely your sister is playing and you are just whining.” This usually occurs because we want to show our child the correct way of behaving and we believe that they will follow their sibling’s example and start to have fun. However, sometimes we receive the opposite reaction when we hear crying and the sister crying that they have taken their toy. Often, we unconsciously strengthen the competition between children by proposing innocent games such as: who will eat dinner first, which can probably be perceived as “first come, first served.”
Comparing children can become a habit because it is easiest for parents to resort to doing so is difficult and nervous situations. Tell your child directly what you want to convey, without referring to their siblings. Say what your child has to do, what you like and don’t like. It is important to focus on one child. Encourage cooperation – It builds a bond, mutual trust and gives a lot of joy. Emphasize the uniqueness of each child. When there is an argument, it doesn’t always require your intervention. Often, conflicts between children are a manifestation of competition for parents’ attention, provoking them to take sides. By reacting, adults engage in disputes and fuel these types of situations. Besides, when we “let” children argue, we give them a chance to resolve the conflict on their own. And this skill certainly will be useful for them in the future. The most important is to look for possible solutions together.
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