Parents’ Quarrel — How Does It Affect a Child?

A child cannot be prepared for arguments, as it is for an appointment with a doctor. Usually, the event is also accompanied by great emotions of each of the parties and it is difficult to provide immediate, logical, calm explanations. It is their emotions that parents must learn to deal with in the first place. If we do not want the child to worry about the family, or rather about its breakdown, we need to keep our nerves in check and just not argue around him, thus saving both him and ourselves a lot of stress. It’s best to explain in a calm and accessible way that these things happen between adults. Just as a child sometimes argues with siblings or friends over toys or cartoons on TV, parents also have the right to do so, although of course they should avoid it. It happens that children who are frequent witnesses of parents’ quarrels become withdrawn, give up peer contacts, withdraw into themselves, run away into the world of virtual games or literary fiction. The parents are like the captain and boatswain in the family — they are supposed to safely bring the ship to the port, with all the passengers on board.