What kind of parent does a child need?

Children need parents who, above all, have time for them, and are committed and interested in their activities. They are present in their child’s life, parents know in what way it is best for them to interact with their children. 20 minutes of real attention, when the child knows and feels that they have exclusive time with the parent, it has more value than hours spent “on the occasion” of making dinner or reading the newspaper, when the child feels like an  “additional extra “.

Children need “good enough parent’ because a  “good enough” parent is the best parent! A good parent gives themselves the right to make mistakes, knows it is an opportunity to learn. They do not worry, they are not perfect, and that not everything always goes to plan. They can forgive themselves for imperfections and don’t strive to be perfect. They are focused, open to the child, knowledgeable, understanding, empathetic, supportive, aware, and unconditionally loving.

For a child, each parent is unique. It is worth remembering that children’s perfection means something different than perfection as understood by adults. There is no place in it for competition, evaluation, or striving to be flawless. Just be yourself! Adults forget it very quickly and try to pursue ideals without thinking that what children need most is simply the best version of themselves. With all the pros and cons, which is just good enough for their baby.